What is Love?

Love is …not something that happens to you because of someone else, it is not something that anyone can take away from you, it is not something you feel because someone makes you feel it, it is not gone when someone is gone out of your life, and it is not something you fall into or out of!  If all of this is true, then what is love and how do you get it?

Here is an exercise to have you begin to discover what your relationship is to love and its source:

1. Make a list of the times you have felt loved. Love of a child, love of friend, love of a parent, a romantic love, just to name a few.

2.  Then ask yourself why you felt love in those moments?  Make a list of the ‘reasons’ you have given.  

3. Next, make a list of the times you have felt “without love,” love seeming missing or not in your life.

4. Then ask yourself why you felt without love in those moments?  Make a list of the “reasons” you have given.

5. Now, ask yourself these questions:

• Have I ever felt loved for no reason at all? 

• Have I ever just been in the experience of love and not really had any “reason” for it?

Of course you have...and it is because every experience of love you have is generated by you…not something (or someone) outside of you.  When you realize that you are the originator of all your experiences of love then you will never be left with feeling UNLOVED.